Self-esteem is an individual’s perception or evaluation of their worth. There are situations where you are less confident in yourself or you just feel a bit down, and this is ok. But if this is a frequent occurrence, it could result in issues that affect your mental health like anxiety, depression, or personality disorder.
Self-esteem has a lot to do with the experiences we have had in life, most specifically experiences from our childhood. Nevertheless, no matter the age your self-esteem can always be improved. In this article, we will learn all there is to know about self-esteem and steps to take to improve it.
The Perception of Self-Esteem
Some individuals believe that self-esteem is that inner voice or muttering, the voice that you hear in your head telling you if you are capable of doing something or not.
Self-esteem is more about self-judgment, how much you value yourself, and the perception you have about who you are and your capabilities.
Self-esteem is not related to one’s ability.
Self-esteem is hardly ever affiliated with your ability or the opinion of others about you.
Someone who is well experienced or an expert in handling certain tasks or jobs can have poor self-esteem. On the other hand, someone who finds it difficult to perform a duty or handle a specific task may have good self-esteem.
– Those who have good self-esteem always carry a confident and positive ambiance about life, they are oftentimes positive about how they see things and how they react to things. This type of attitude makes them tough and can adapt easily to any situation they are faced with.
– While those with poor self-esteem are often disapproving of themselves. When faced with difficult situations or challenges, they find it hard to get back on their feet. And so this makes them want to shy away or avoid any difficult situations, which eventually brings down their self-esteem because they have lost confidence in themselves.
Low self-esteem can generally affect the way people behave, it even spans to personal achievements (when you find yourself murmuring about how little you have achieved in life and all).
Why Do People Experience Low Self-Esteem?
There are various reasons why an individual may have low self-esteem, but more often than not it is from childhood. Maybe you were often looked down on or made to feel as though you couldn’t do certain things or not good enough. It could also have started as an adult from failed relationships, difficulty at work, or even amongst friends and family.
Self-esteem concerning Abuse and Domestic Violence
Low self-esteem can be caused by abuse or domestic violence on an individual.
For instance, when the abuser does nothing but tramples on the victims’ ego and confidence, making them feel less of themselves. There are also cases where once the abuser notices any sign of low self-esteem they capitalize on that because you are already vulnerable to be abused.
Violence and abuse are unhealthy and no one should suffer from either.
If you are in this situation or knows someone in it, you all should look for help.
If you are resident in the UK you can contact the following for help; Childline, Phone no. 0800 1111, the NSPCC, and the National Domestic Violence helpline on, 0808 2000 247.
And if you reside in the US, the Government suggests that you can contact the Domestic Violence hotline on 0808-799-SAFE (7233).